# reflect & reset · pilot schools wanted
Reflection that changes behaviour, not just a worksheet in isolation.
Reflect & Reset is a short, evidence-informed course for pupils who keep getting it wrong. Forty-minute modules teach and rehearse the behaviour you want to see, and a 12-week coaching course helps pupils who struggle to manage their emotions. Every module comes with a quiz that checks their thinking.
KS3 and KS4 · 14 reset modules · 12-week regulation coaching course
Your friend whispers a joke while the teacher is explaining the task.
What is the best thing to do?
Thinking spotted
Believes small, quiet disruption doesn’t count. It still pulls you and the people around you off the task.
Fix it
Write the words you could say to your friend at break to share the joke without getting into trouble.
// why it matters
Most suspensions are for behaviour that can be taught.
Persistent disruption, rudeness to staff and fighting make up most suspensions in England. Time out of lessons alone rarely changes them. Pupils need to learn and practise a different response.
suspensions in English schools in 2024/25.
of suspension reasons were persistent disruptive behaviour, the largest single reason.
had the highest suspension rate of any year group.
Source: DfE, Suspensions and permanent exclusions in England 2024/25 (July 2026).
// how it works
One cycle for every referral.
The course runs as six core sessions over three weeks, with targeted modules matched to the pupil’s referral and eight weeks of follow-up.
- 01 know
Understand the pattern
A short intake looks at when, where and why things go wrong, and sets two personal targets.
- 02 rehearse
Teach and practise
Forty-minute modules with scenarios and role-play, because rehearsal is what makes new behaviour stick.
- 03 repair
Put it right
A prepared restorative conversation with the person affected, when the pupil is ready.
- 04 follow up
Keep it going
A daily report card and weekly mentor check-in for eight weeks after the sessions end.
// the modules
Fourteen modules, each matched to a reason for referral.
Every module follows the same 40 minutes: hook, understand, rehearse, apply. Pupils take the one or two that fit why they were referred.
- 1
Ready to Learn
Low-level and persistent disruption
- 2
First Time, Every Time
Refusing instructions and defiance
- 3
Talking to Adults
Rudeness, answering back and swearing
- 4
Cool Down, Not Kick Off
Conflict and fighting with peers
- 5
Banter or Bullying?
Bullying, prejudice and peer harm
- 6
Online Actions, Real Consequences
Phones and online behaviour
- 7
Right Place, Right Time
Lateness and internal truancy
- 8
Leader or Follower?
Peer influence and group behaviour
- 9
Lines You Don’t Cross
Threats and assault towards staff
- 10
Clear Head
Drugs, alcohol and vaping
- 11
Choose Safety
Weapons and prohibited items
- 12
Respect for Property
Damage and theft
- 13
Respect and Consent
Sexual harassment, after a DSL assessment
- 14
Fresh Start
Every pupil returning from suspension
// two pathways
A quick reset after an incident, or a term of coaching.
Some pupils need to rethink one behaviour. Others misbehave because they can’t yet manage big feelings. Reflect & Reset gives you a pathway for each, with the same language and plan across both.
Short reset course
For pupils referred after removals, internal suspension or suspension. Targeted modules matched to the reason for referral.
- Length
- 3 weeks, then 8 weeks’ follow-up
- Sessions
- 6 core sessions plus 40-minute modules
- Format
- 1:1 or groups of 4–6
- Ends with
- A one-page behaviour plan shared with teachers
Regulation & Social-Emotional Coaching
For pupils whose incidents come from emotional escalation, anxiety, anger or friendship conflict. Teaches regulation, then applies it to relationships.
- Length
- 12 weeks
- Sessions
- 50-minute group sessions, plus 25-minute 1:1 coaching where needed
- Format
- Groups of 6–8, delivered by trained staff coaches
- Ends with
- A personal regulation plan each pupil owns and uses
Core regulation language for every pupil through tutor time or PSHE, with a daily 1–5 check-in.
The 12-week small-group course for pupils who meet two or more referral criteria.
The group course plus weekly 1:1 coaching for pupils who need intensive support.
// regulation coaching · 12 weeks
Regulate first. Then relate. Then reason.
Coaches calm first, connect second and problem-solve last, so no pupil is asked to reflect while still dysregulated. Unit 1 builds self-regulation; Unit 2 applies it to relationships; week 12 brings both into each pupil’s plan.
- Week 1
Understanding emotions
- Week 2
The stress response
- Week 3
Triggers and warning signs
- Week 4
Calming the body
- Week 5
Calming the mind
- Week 6
Zones and choices
- Week 7
Reading others
- Week 8
Communication styles
- Week 9
Friendships and belonging
- Week 10
Conflict and repair
- Week 11
Resilience and setbacks
- Week 12
My regulation plan
Group sessions
50 minutes: check-in, a breathing or grounding routine, one taught idea, 20 minutes of role-play or real situations, a weekly target and a check-out.
1:1 coaching
GROW conversations: the goal, what really happened, the options, and the way forward with who can help.
Trained coaches
Two 2-hour training sessions, an observed session and fortnightly supervision. Coaching is educational, not therapy, with clear safeguarding referral routes.
Measured impact
Pupil self-assessment and SDQ at weeks 1, 6 and 12, plus behaviour and attendance data the term before and after.
// sample module
Module 1: Ready to Learn
For pupils who talk over others, shout out, distract classmates or are slow to settle. It targets the most common reason for suspension in England.
- 5 min
Hook: the lost minutes
Work out how much learning a class loses to small disruptions in one week.
- 10 min
Understand: what “ready” looks like
Why low-level disruption adds up, and the routines for the first five minutes of a lesson.
- 15 min
Rehearse: lesson starts and switches
Scenario choices and role-play of settling, asking to speak and ignoring distractions.
- 10 min
Apply: my hardest lesson
Pin down the lesson and moment where it goes wrong, and write a “next time I will” plan.
// built on the evidence
Designed around what the research says works.
Practise, don’t just talk
Behaviour interventions with role-play and rehearsal show the strongest effects in the EEF Toolkit.
Short and frequent
Social and emotional learning works best in sessions of up to 45 minutes, twice a week, with bigger gains at secondary (EEF).
Tailored to the pupil
The EEF’s behaviour guidance recommends personalised approaches, such as report cards, for pupils that whole-school systems don’t reach.
Ready for internal suspension
The DfE wants internal suspension to be short and structured, with real learning and reflection. Each module fits a timetabled slot.
// register interest
Be one of the first schools to use it.
We’re looking for schools to try Reflect & Reset before launch. Register and we’ll be in touch about pilot places.
- Early access to all 14 modules, learn guides and quizzes
- The 12-week regulation coaching course and staff coach training
- Pilot pricing for your first year